Being a parent is a challenging task with the multiple aspects it comes with from nurturing from birth , to educating at toddlering years, to disciplineing throughout your child’s life. And how do we as parents know which is the proper ways of being a parent ? Our children don’t come out the womb with instruction manuals, So it’s a learning life long term experience lesson we all parents must go through.
Discipline your preschooler
Your preschooler’s memory and communication skills are developing and he’s better able to follow instructions and understand explanations. This age group is busy figuring out tricky social skills, such as sharing, manners and getting along with friends,. “They’re learning so much more about the world, but as their horizons expand, they have a lot more to deal with and they don’t know quite how to handle everything children at this age are literally like sponges they obsorb everything .
Discipline your school-aged kid
“Big kids” are now better able to express their feelings and to demonstrate self-control, so this is a prime time to lay the foundation for future behaviour, says Radcliffe. “Whatever happens between the ages of five and 10 tends to have a major impact on what’s going to take place in the teen years.”
Discipline your tween
“Tweens are starting to spread their wings and they want to go further, stay out longer and do more with their peers,”. That can be scary for parents (especially with the first child) who don’t want to give up the control. The result? A seismic power struggle.
Discipline your teen
”Parents need to realize that brain changes are taking place, hormonal changes are taking place, “and kids just aren’t in complete control of their own behaviour.” The drive for independence becomes a dominant force in your teen’s life, and his peer group rules.
5 Golden rules
1. Stand firm.
We all hate conflict, but if you don’t stick to the rules and consequences you set up, your kids aren’t likely to either, .
2. Pick your battles.
Give the small things small attention and the big things big attention, and you’ll be happier and calmer — and (bonus!) your children will be happier, calmer and better behaved too, .
3. Praise, don’t punish.
Try to practise “good feeling” discipline most of the time, says Radcliffe. “Simply put, your tone of voice, your behaviour, the words you’re using, should all feel good to your child 80 percent of the time. If you can do that, you can do no wrong.”
4. Set clear rules and expectations.
A carefully selected bunch of age-appropriate rules can make family life a whole lot smoother and easier, says Radcliffe. For example, the “no cookies before dinner” rule prevents regular arguments about snacking before supper. The “no computer after 10 p.m.” rule stops a nightly dispute about shutting down the PC.
5. Provide unconditional love.
Yes, it’s a no-brainer, but children need to know you love them, every day, even when they’ve done something bad.